Thank you for following The Patterns Newsletter. It means a lot to me you’re supporting my new path.
This will be the last newsletter that carries that name. The branding will change but the message will stay the same. The new direction is more in line with myself and will be of greater benefit to you as well as future subscribers.
What is it?
For a year or so I’ve had an idea of how I wanted to help people and the message I want to share. Over time this phrase developed in my head that encompassed everything I wanted to teach.
I started to see how impactful this message can be when communicated well. And that’s where this newsletter comes in.
I’ll help show how learning to be strong, not safe is the foundation for living & thriving in today’s world.
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Happy Holidays!
Family and spending time with those you love is very important this time of year. Another important thing to do this time of year is to reflect. Remind ourselves of all the not-so-good times we’ve experienced this past year. Why?
To take time to acknowledge the fact you made it through them all and are here today. Things may not be exactly where you want them to be right now.
That’s okay.
Appreciate the effort you put into the last year. It was tough. You pushed through and are still going.
“Treat Yo Self!”
If you haven’t heard it lately, I’m proud of you for showing up every day this year. The best way you could.
And I appreciate you taking me on your journey.
Focus
In issue number 4, we talked about positive emotional attractors or “PEAs” and their effects on focus. Having a positive outlook, although at times tough, has many positive effects on focus.
Here are four quick things to keep in mind about the power positivity has this holiday season:
- Positive thinking reduces stress and anxiety: A positive outlook can help to reduce stress and anxiety, which can be major distractions that interfere with our ability to focus. When we’re feeling stressed or anxious, it’s harder to concentrate on a task or thought.
- Positive thinking increases motivation: A positive attitude can also increase our motivation and drive, which can help us to stay focused on our goals. When we believe in ourselves and are excited about what we’re working towards, it’s easier to maintain our focus.
- Positive thinking improves mood: A positive outlook can also improve our mood, which can make it easier to focus on the tasks at hand. When we’re feeling good, we’re more likely to be able to concentrate and stay engaged in what we’re doing.
- Positive thinking increases resilience: A positive attitude can also increase our resilience, or our ability to bounce back from setbacks and challenges. This can help us to stay focused and motivated even when things don’t go as planned.
Having a positive outlook on life can help us to stay focused, motivated, and engaged in the goals that are important to us.
It’s not always easy to maintain a positive attitude. There are many strategies we can use to maintain a more positive outlook.
It’s about finding ways to manage stress and negative emotions in a healthy way.
Fear
Fear can be irrational and based on our own doubts and insecurities.
In these cases, fear can hold us back and prevent us from taking risks or trying new things. It’s difficult at first but this response to the fear stimulus is manageable.
Try to recognize that these doubts and insecurities are thoughts and not reality. You are in control always.
By facing our fears and taking small consistent steps to overcome them, we gain confidence and become more resilient. We’re able to press mute on fear in most cases.
Fear can be both a positive and a negative emotion, depending on how we respond to it. There’s that control again – our ability to choose.
It’s important to recognize when fear is helpful and when it’s holding us back, and to take steps to manage it in a healthy way. It’s a tool and one you control.
We have to take the time to sit with it and learn its ways.
Perspective Shift
Building off of last week…
If everything is connected does that mean life isn’t just something that happens to us?
Life is THE opportunity to learn and grow.
Taking an active role in shaping our own lives and striving to become the best version of ourselves every day. Having this perspective helps view challenges and setbacks as opportunities for growth.
To find meaning and purpose in our experiences.
This perspective isn’t the easiest. It gets missed by some people because it requires a proactive approach to life and a willingness to take ownership of our own growth and development.
It also involves being open to new experiences and perspectives, while being willing to challenge our own assumptions and beliefs.
However, adopting this perspective is rewarding. It will help live a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
We’re all learning, we’re all growing that’s life.
Bonus Content
“The universe is in us”
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Wrapping up,
- We’re transitioning to Strong not Safe
- Positive outlooks are very powerful
- Doubts & insecurities are not reality
- Life is the opportunity to learn & grow
That’s all for this week. I hope some of these concepts help you.
Thanks for reading & see you next week.