Last week I did something I’d never done before. It wasn’t as hard as I thought it was going to be and once I finished I had to reevaluate what I thought was possible for me.
I read an entire 167-page book in one sitting. Cover to cover and not skip the introduction as I tend to do. No pictures in this book either!
This might not be a lot to some of you bookworms out there. My wife is one of them. She can knock out a book double that size and still have room to start another book.
For me, it was a pretty big accomplishment and opened me up to a potential I didn’t think I had in this area of my life. I was never the reader. I was never the “read a book in a day” guy.
That day I was though!
Now that doesn’t mean I have to keep this up moving forward. I am still reading and going at my own pace. But it’s possible. I can do it if I need to.
Now it’s no longer a question in my head. Now it’s no longer a “what if.”
1 Focus concept – PEA’s & NEA’s
Positive and negative emotional attractors are basically just that. When you feel positive emotions it tends to attract more positive emotions. The same goes for negative emotions and attracting more negative emotions.
It’s somewhat related to Newton’s Law of Motion which states:
An object at rest will stay at rest, and an object in motion will stay in motion…
I first learned this concept during my master’s program. It’s one of those concepts that once you learn about it you feel as if you’ve known it all along.
“Oh, I already know that! I never put words to it before.”
Because we’ve all experienced the times when everything seems to line up in our favor. We’re having a good time and it keeps getting better.
We’ve also experienced the other side. The times when we are in a funk and we know it. When we have to force ourselves to do something positive. Literally, force ourselves. Because deep down we know we can’t stay in this funk forever.
You may like George Clinton but even he doesn’t want this funk.
It may sound simple. Too simple to work. But there is science behind simply focusing on positive things begets positive things.
Don’t believe me? Try for yourself and see what happens!
1 Thought on Fear – How fear talks
“Here’s why that’s not going to work”
The voice we’ve all heard in our head at one point or another. It shows up right around good ideas or risks you want to take.
That’s how fear talks to us. Remember fear is a survival tool for humans. It’s part of our flight or fight response. In most cases, our fear triggers our fight response. Only we’re not fighting against fear.
No, fear is a little more tricky than that. We’re actually fighting against the thing that would destroy the fear. By doing that fear wins.
Fear keeps us from seeing anything new. It does this by narrowing and limiting our focus around negative outcomes. And like we learned in the focus section, that will keep the negative outcomes coming back more and more.
We will keep telling ourselves all the reasons why something won’t work. Sound familiar?
Who’s voice is that? Will you notice who’s really talking next time?
1 Perspective Shift – Wrong behavior or wrong beliefs?
Growing up there are certain things you just don’t do. Talk back to your parents, steal, etc. Certain behaviors you know not to act out.
Which makes it easier for us to spot the “bad people” by seeing those who act them out.
What’s going on is not only the behavior. You’re not bad because you do wrong things.
The issue lies with a wrong belief or believing something that isn’t true. The result of that belief is an incorrect behavior.
You may not be able to take back past actions but you can correct the beliefs that caused those actions to happen. That path will always be a better one to follow.
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Wrapping up,
- Positive Emotional Attractors (PEAs) are something you can influence.
- Learn to hear when fear is talking
- Wrong beliefs cause wrong behavior
That’s all for this week. I hope some of these concepts help you.
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Thanks for reading & see you next week.